Single File - May 2022

Susan Deitz

All The Single Ladies: Here’s the Answers to a Few of Your Questions

Single File - May 2022

A New Language
You don’t have to be single to be shy, but it’s more likely when your way of life pushes you to meet new people and make entrances ... solo. That’s why it’s so important to learn the language of SMALL TALK. (It merits capitals because it’s not so easy to learn.) Truth is it’s a totally new language for those of us who never inherited the gift of easy, flowing, not-very-important chatter. Which brings me back to a cringeworthy moment years ago at the United Nations in New York City when I was introduced to an old-time film legend and left alone with him. (If you must know, it was Douglas Fairbanks Jr.) I can still see the expression on my face—and his—as the two of us agonizingly croaked out sounds we hoped passed for conversation. Disaster!

Parenting May 2022: Chores, Stepdaughters and Toilet Training

John Rosemond

Living With Children by John Rosemond

Parenting May 2022: Chores, Stepdaughters and Toilet Training

Q: When I give my 5-year-old daughter a chore, she does it, but all the while she is muttering under her breath, huffing and puffing, and so on. Do I discipline that behavior or just let her vent?
A:
Let her vent! She may have a “bad attitude,” but she does what she is told. She’s just being petulant, which in this situation doesn’t qualify as misbehavior. It’s mere childishness. In fact, I would predict that if you began punishing her petulant outbursts, she might swing to true rebellion. Count your blessings and leave this issue alone.

Paisley Prescriptions - May 2022

Diane Bowen, M.D.

Follow Your Heart to Good Health: Heart Disease & Stroke

Paisley Prescriptions - May 2022

You recently gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby. You should be feeling excitement and joy, right? Not necessarily. “Many new mothers feel the worry, fatigue or sadness known as the ‘baby blues.’ It’s important to distinguish between that and postpartum depression, a condition which brings on stronger, more debilitating feelings that can linger weeks or months,” says Shirley D. Wilson, M.D., FACOG, a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist at Southeast Georgia Health System. Dr. Wilson practices at Southeast Georgia Physician Associates-Obstetrics & Gynecology in Brunswick, Georgia.

When a new mother becomes depressed, she may feel overwhelmed by sadness, irritability, anxiety, emptiness, hopelessness, or lethargy. She may have trouble concentrating, may eat too much or not enough, may sleep too little or too much. Some women experience unexplained aches and pains. Others spiral into major depression and suicidal thoughts.

Kelly's Comments - May 2022

Kelly Hunter

Kelly's Comments - May 2022

Happy Mother’s Day! How appropriate that Mental Health Awareness Month and Maternal Health Month are both in May. National Teachers’ Day is May 3rd and National Nurses’ Day is May 6th. Our mothers are often our first counselors, first teachers and first nurses. It’s also true that moms notoriously neglect their own health as they strive to keep their families healthy.

Single File - April 2022

Susan Deitz

All The Single Ladies: Here’s the Answers to a Few of Your Questions

Single File - April 2022

Exercises in Singleness
DEAR SUSAN:
How on Earth did you come up with the idea of exercises in singleness? I’ve heard of situps and pushups for the underused abs and belly muscles, but how does someone exercise their singleness?!

DEAR BLOGGER:
The same logic that applies to one’s abs or stomach muscles applies to their singleness: Underused is underdeveloped. A flaccid stomach muscle or abdomen is of little use to its owner when physical strength is called for. (Follow me closely here, dear Readers, and logic will lead you to your answer). The unmarried state, if not utilized vigorously, will tend to either grow inward, narrowing the supply of people so necessary for a full and vigorous life, or make a splash outward and become a mini-world of time-wasters and distractions. Either direction of energy is a contortion of the purpose of life, which is to grow and develop into more of a person. That purpose is best achieved in the unmarried state, when time and resources are under personal control. Exercising one’s singleness is, then, conscious usage of one’s time and resources in order to grow, to explore one’s interests and to expand one’s personal universe. And, when making the decision to migrate to the coupled world, the move can be as smooth as walking off a moving escalator—without missing a step. Paramount to coupled success is the continuation of the Exercises in Singleness! Maintaining them faithfully will keep one’s “undependence” intact and operable. And, not incidentally, it will make you—and your relationship—so much more interesting. Being interesting and beloved makes for a fascinating partnership. I wish it to you.

Parenting April 2022: Who's the boss?

John Rosemond

Living With Children by John Rosemond

Parenting April 2022: Who's the boss?

Is the following statement true or false?
It is often the case that children like what is not good for them
and do not like what is good for them.
True, right? Right!
The question then becomes, are you trying to be liked by your child?


Other forms of the same question are…Does it bother you when your child acts like he doesn’t like you? When your child acts like he doesn’t care for you, do you try to correct the situation? Do you desire, in your heart of hearts, to be seen by your child as a friend?

If you answered “yes” to those questions, then you have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are not of sound mind. In this case, a sound mind is defined as not caring one way or the other whether your child likes you at any given moment in time, or not.

Paisley Prescriptions - April 2022

Diane Bowen, M.D.

Follow Your Heart to Good Health: Heart Disease & Stroke

Paisley Prescriptions - April 2022

After so much time spent inside during the cold winter months, we are all ready to get out and enjoy the gorgeous spring weather. However, it’s important to take precautions before basking in the sun. Yes! You can get sunburned even on these beautiful, cool, sunny spring days. Skin cancer—the abnormal growth of skin cells—most often develops on skin that has been exposed to the sun. Are you at risk?


There are three major types of skin cancer:
• Basal Cell Carcinoma: This is skin cancer that begins in the basal cells, which are a type of cell within the skin that produces new skin cells as old ones die off. Basal cell carcinoma typically appears in sun-exposed areas, such as the head and neck and has a slightly transparent bump. It is usually a growth or sore that won’t heal.

Kelly's Comments - April 2022

Kelly Hunter

Kelly's Comments - April 2022

Unless my allergies deceive me, spring has sprung! It’s that glorious time of year when you wake up to birdsong and fall asleep from antihistamines. In all seriousness, this is a splendid time of year in Coastal Georgia. There are incredible events every weekend, and there’s an excellent chance the weather will behave. Please be sure to wear your sunscreen and stylish sunhats, though. If you need extra motivation, be sure to read Dr. Bowen’s article on skin cancer in Paisley Prescriptions.

Single File - March 2022

Susan Deitz

All The Single Ladies: Here’s the Answers to a Few of Your Questions

Single File - March 2022

DEAR SUSAN:
Those supposed “bad boys” are filling some need in girls’ lives that makes them take notice—and feel special. Maybe it’s only the cheap rush of danger; maybe it’s sexual, but without a doubt, something strong gets their attention! (And nice guys rarely come on as strong!) Males who see themselves as “nice guys” should give up trying so hard to BE nice—and DO more. An interested person is an interesting person! Be the guy who’s doing things in the world, who’s truly interested in his work, who makes things happen. And guess what—he’s nice, too. Females are drawn to a man who’s interesting. And when niceness is also part of his persona, they’ll fall at his feet. —From the ‘Single File’ Blog

Paisley Prescriptions - March 2022

It's All Pink

Follow Your Heart to Good Health: Heart Disease & Stroke

Paisley Prescriptions - March 2022

At some point everyone experiences digestive problems such as abdominal pain, bloating, diarrhea, constipation, heartburn, nausea or vomiting. This is often a temporary inconvenience caused by too much ice cream, beer or chicken wings. However, when symptoms persist, it may be a sign of an underlying problem that needs serious medical attention. Most of us know when we’ve gone too far with excessive food and drink, waddling to the couch to assume a horizontal position soon after dinner for relief from overeating. But when are stomach issues, which may be caused by more than a stomach-revolting, self-induced food binge, a concern? We had a gut feeling it was time to ask our local expert to tell us more about the importance of gut health and the perils we may experience.

Kelly's Comments - March 2022

Kelly Hunter

Kelly's Comments - March 2022

Do you ever feel like you’ve spent the last two years inside your home? I know it isn’t literally true, but I certainly started to feel that way recently. I’m grateful to Lynda Dalton Gallagher for calling me up and getting me out of the house! For the first time since before COVID hit, I was back on stage last month, and it felt great. There’s just nothing like sharing a space with people and making them laugh.

Single File - February 2022

Susan Deitz

All The Single Ladies: Here’s the Answers to a Few of Your Questions

DEAR SUSAN:
I finally ended a long marriage that was filled with lies, cheating and mental and verbal abuse. (It took years for the divorce to become final.) My therapist, children, family and friends all are encouraging me to start dating again and begin a new life with a new man who deserves and respects me. I shudder at the thought. Whenever the topic is even mentioned I begin to shake and sometimes even cry. I’ve been so scarred by my past relationship that the issue of trust is more than a hurdle; it’s like breaking through a brick wall. I’m very happy surrounded by family and friends—and happy to finally be on my own. I know I have many good years ahead (I’m approaching the age of 50), but why must they be with a partner? Must I start dating again to “heal” and make my life “complete”?

Parenting February 2022: Danger: Information Overload

John Rosemond

Living With Children by John Rosemond

Parenting February 2022: Danger: Information Overload

My 3-year-old is fearful of trying anything new, including things that other kids his age love to do such as swinging on a swing, sliding down a slide, and splashing in a pool. I feel like I should begin talking to him about what to do in case of a fire in our house and “stranger danger,” but how can I make him aware of how serious these dangers are without scaring him?

Paisley Prescriptions - February 2022

It's All Pink

Follow Your Heart to Good Health: Heart Disease & Stroke

Paisley Prescriptions - February 2022

February is American Heart Month: a good time to focus on your cardiovascular health. Stroke is a leading cause of death and disability in the United States. Nearly 800,000 Americans have a stroke every year. Heart Disease is the number one cause of death in this country, killing about 600,000 Americans annually. Both are serious health issues that can affect women, as well as men, so we asked local health experts to answer our questions about heart disease and stroke.
(Above statistics from cdc.gov)

Single File - January 2022

Susan Deitz

Never Too Late to Find Love

Single File - January 2022

DEAR SUSAN:
I was quite saddened to read in ‘Single File’ that unmarried households (solo) outnumber married families. But as I think about it, it’s somewhat true. Even in my life I know of several people between the ages of 30 and 55 who live alone. Those divorced are trying desperately to meet someone so as not to continue their journey alone. I think that’s because they have experienced marriage and motherhood and want to experience part (if not all) of it again.

Kelly's Comments - January 2022

Kelly Hunter

Kelly's Comments - January 2022

Happy New Year! Are you ready to #StartFresh? I know I am! Every year has its ups and downs, but I am ready to leave 2021 behind and start 2022 with a clean slate! The inspiring stories and features in this month’s magazine have motivated me to hit the ground running (or maybe just a brisk walk)!

Parenting January 2022: It’s Not Your Job to Make Your Child Happy

John Rosemond

Living With Children by John Rosemond

Parenting January 2022:  It’s Not Your Job to Make Your Child Happy

Making children happy became a parenting goal in the early 1970s. The paradox, as everyone with a modicum of common sense knows, is that the more effort parents put into making a child happy, the more unhappy the child becomes.

Underneath the cute appearance of an infant lurks a tyrant. I would have been expelled from graduate school for writing that sentence, but as loathe as many of today’s parents are to accept it, that is the truth. Another paradox: Parents who are unwilling to accept it are the ones most likely to give the tyrant permission to step out of hiding and begin his reign of terror.

Paisley Prescriptions - January 2022

It's All Pink

Struggling in Silence: Stress, Depression, Anxiety & Panic

Paisley Prescriptions - January 2022

Too often, the stigma that still surrounds mental health has caused people to struggle in silence. We at Pink want to help put an end to that stigma by shining a light on Stress, Depression, Anxiety, and Panic. These are all real health issues, not character flaws or weaknesses. The strongest thing we can do is seek help. Here is advice from experts for dealing with these serious issues.

Kelly's Comments - December 2021

Kelly Hunter

Kelly's Comments - December 2021

Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas; Grown Up Christmas List; The Christmas Waltz; White Christmas (with the rarely-recorded intro); Mele Kelikimaka—I have many favorite Christmas songs, but the one on my mind the most this year is Put A Little Love In Your Heart. “That’s not a Christmas song,” you say. Thanks to the Bill Murray movie Scrooged, it most certainly is.

Parenting December 2021: Give Your Child the Gift of Grit

John Rosemond

Living With Children by John Rosemond

Parenting December 2021: Give Your Child the Gift of Grit

It’s all over the web, that “grit” thing. Seems like every day, I get some promo for a webinar on how to get more grit, project more grit, or get in touch with your inner grit. So, allow me to enlighten the reader on how to help your child acquire grit.

First, what is grit? Grit is equal parts determination, tenacity, and emotional resilience, which is the ability to withstand setbacks and even failure. Grit is nothing new. Marco Polo had it. Edmund Hillary had it. Navy Seals have it. I know that leaves lots of people out, but this is a magazine column, not a history book. You get the picture. Grit is hanging in there and getting the job done when failure is a looming possibility. Grit is in short supply today, as I and many folks of my generation fear.

Paisley Prescriptions - December 2021

It's All Pink

Oh, Holy Night Sweats Is it Perimenopause?

Paisley Prescriptions - December 2021

Women often think of menopause, or “the change”, as something that happens to older women, but the signs and symptoms of perimenopause can begin to affect women in their 30s. It’s important to pay attention to what your body might be telling you about your hormone levels. That’s why we asked local wellness experts to tell us more about this in-between time in women’s lives.

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