According to a popular meme, the first rule of 2021 is to never talk about 2020.

Enticing proposal. However, we probably shouldn’t listen to a riff off of Brad Pitt’s line in Fight Club, especially since 2020 gave us a lot of material for making drastic changes. Maybe, instead, we could structure our 2021 game plan according to another classic 1999 film: The Matrix. Rather than trying to forget the past (as the meme jokingly suggests), we choose a mindset—like the red pill in The Matrix—to see necessary truths for knowing how to exponentially improve our lives.

Look at it this way: We can either bury the pile of memories from a year we’d love to forget, or use that plethora of experiences as opportunities for rising in life-altering, empowering ways.

“Entrepreneur, commercial realtor, mom, mentor, volunteer and construction expert are just a few of the many hats St. Simons Island resident Cherise Cartwright wears on a daily basis. But that wasn’t always the plan.

“I grew up in a little bubble in Wellington (Florida), a small, equestrian town known for polo. My family’s business was real estate and construction, and I thought I would be doing anything but that,” she laughed, adding originally she planned on being a journalist. “I wanted to be independent, leave home and get a corporate job.”

More than any year in recent history, 2020 has shown us the utmost importance of lending a hand and doing for others. Particularly, thanks to our magazine editorial and other media sources, we have been able to witness countless women in various stewardship acts of kindness. Thanks to our wonderful readers and friends of Paisley Magazine we found three local, dynamic representatives, who are full of heart and emulate what it means to lead lives driven by purpose. Read on as each woman gives us a peek at how she is helping to be the difference…

Dr. Michelle Johnston, President of College of Coastal Georgia (CCGA), says the number one way the school is making this issue’s theme of #BeTheDifference a reality can be summed up simply—by preparing its graduates.

“We are preparing incredible graduates to go out into the world,” said Dr. Johnston, who was selected to lead CCGA in 2018 as the institution’s sixth president.” We have students that not only come from the local area, but also from 35 states and 20 countries, and they are graduating and making their mark on the world. They are the reason we are making a difference in our community and beyond. Our most recent data shows that 77 percent of our graduates choose to stay and work in this area of the state,” she said, adding that many of the graduates who have stayed in the Golden Isles come from over 100 other Georgia counties. “Instead of experiencing a brain drain, like other areas have experienced, our school has become a brain magnet.”

Best friends Tammy Langdale and Cindy Schoch met as community service volunteers. Their shared dedication in giving back to veterans and their families is what continues to keep this heart-filled friendship strong five years later.

“We met working as volunteers with the American Legion Auxiliary in Darien,” said Tammy, whose grandmother was the president of the chapter years ago. “We didn’t know each other before that, and we just hit it off. Volunteering with the Auxiliary is a great way to meet friends.”

While Tammy is a native of Darien, who grew up on Jekyll Island, Cindy is a native of Connecticut, who didn’t move to Darien until six years ago after she and her partner, Wally Schieferdecker, sold the marina they owned and managed in the Constitution State. “We spent about 10 years looking for a place to move, including Glynn and Liberty counties, but we kept coming back to Darien. We fell in love with the waterfront.”

Becca Randall, the Glynn County Interim Executive Director at Habitat for Humanity, considers herself blessed to have her best friend Caroline Kittle. The feeling is mutual. Caroline is Executive Director for Grace House, a 14-bed, sober women’s living home in downtown Brunswick. These best friends consider each other to be their best lucky charm in life. Willing to share their thoughts, we secretly asked each one questions about their friendship. Enjoy reading not only what each friend said about the other, but also about themselves:

Inez McDaniel, born and raised in Niterói, Rio De Janeiro, Brazil, moved to Georgia a little over 30 years ago and is a naturalized US citizen. Inez is fluent in Portuguese, English and Spanish, which is a big plus in her career as a Georgia Licensed Professional Counselor. This busy mother of two adult daughters Amanda, 23 and Stella, age 21, recently opened a private practice in downtown Brunswick. When asked about the subject of personal well-being, a motorcycle was immediately mentioned accompanied by a huge smile on her face…

Inez, what three things do you consider vital as the best tools in working as a professional counselor? It is difficult to limit it to only three, but the three things I consider vital in a counselor are: 1) Ability to listen to feelings and underlying issues genuinely; 2) Ongoing learning of new techniques and strategies, enhancing flexibility and understanding of cultural differences and diversity; 3) Self-care. This one is critical! Making the best of leisure time, connecting with family and friends, eating healthy, exercising and having a hobby such as riding a motorcycle.

Darien native Amy Pontello, ARNP, has just two things on her ultimate wish list: “One, that there would be less stigma surrounding mental health issues; Two, more access to mental health care. Really, less stigma would automatically equal more access for some people,” said Amy, a psychiatric nurse practitioner at Coastal Community Health Services (CCHS).

Although Amy has been a nurse since the 1980s, she didn’t transition into psychiatric nursing until about three years ago. “I started out as an R.N. at the hospital in Brunswick.” She and her husband, Bob, then spent 15 years living in Florida, finally settling in Key West, where she transitioned into oncology nursing.

Meet Gary Nickoukary–President, activity organizer Dondra Whigham,
and “numbers guy” Mark Semmelmayer—a trio of key leaders in the non-profit organization The St. Simons Island Newcomers Club. For over 15 years their mission in promoting community friendliness has seen their numbers grow to over 340 members this year. Their successful program incorporates learning and
socialization while gaining an appreciation for the Golden Isles.

Although self-taught watercolorist and beadwork artisan Jodi Gregory grew up “doodling,” and loving art, she never thought it would turn into a career.

“I’ve always had papers and pencils with me. On Sundays, my mom would give us paper to draw on during church, since we didn’t have children’s church then,” said Jodi, who was born in the old Gilman Hospital in St. Marys when her dad was stationed at the naval station in Jacksonville.

From the time Stephanie Treece was a young girl growing up in Saltsburg, a small town outside of Pittsburgh, Pa., she knew she wanted to pursue a career in the sciences. She had no idea at the time she would eventually become one of the first women to serve on a U.S. Navy submarine.

“I’ve always been pretty good at math and science. In math, there is always an answer, so I knew I would be going into a technical field,” said Stephanie, who currently oversees defense contracts as program manager with PaR Systems at the Brunswick Port. “My dad started out as an HVAC tech. He had to work a lot on weekends, so he would take me on calls to spend time together. He would take me to inner-city Pittsburgh, and we would go up into the skyscrapers, that’s where I got my love for physics,” she said, adding thanks to her father, she also learned how to install tile, drywall and fix plumbing.

Mayor Kizzi, You have been Mayor of Woodbine, Georgia, since January—congratulations! What is an interesting component in being a leader in your community of 1500 people?
Thank you! I think the component that stands out the most is leading from the ground. I feel best being always at eye level with everyone; I’m not looking down from a platform, or from behind a traditional desk. My residents have clear access to me.

We understand, in your town, being mayor is a part-time job. What is your additional career and how do you make it all work?
I’ve been in law enforcement for over 14 years and child advocacy for the past five. Neither of my positions are considered “work” to me anymore. It feels like I’m just going out every day to make someone’s life a little better.

As the founder of MAD (Manifest A Deliverance), an motivational organization for women using discussions, events and music, and The Pink Group, a marketing and publishing company, Hashondra Jernigan-Smith, uses her past experiences to help women overcome obstacles that could be holding them back from living happy, independent lives.

It started from her book, Attached, that was published two years ago.

“It was basically me telling my story and what I learned over time as an adult from the emotional trauma of having sex too soon. I literally started writing at the age of 22 in the middle of the night,” she said. In between “life happening,” which included earning degrees in organizational management and medical coding, raising her first daughter, Cianie KaLeeah, getting married and having her daughter, KayLee, Hashondra continued to write, finally finishing the book at age 32. “So, you get to see what happened looking back through my eyes as a 32-year-old and what I’ve learned.”

Four years ago, Nicole Arnold was approaching graduation from Hilton Head Island High School and craving some adventure. After brainstorming a variety of ideas, her biggest passion led her on the greatest journey of her life so far. With a whole lot of planning, dreaming, and researching, Nicole set her goal: To bike across the United States.

For as long as Nicole can remember, she has been glued to a bicycle seat. Always an independent child, she would spend hours biking around her island neighborhood. When she road, she had a box on the back of her bike to keep her belongings in— little did she know, this would prepare her in achieving her dream while traveling with ease.

As the author of award-winning plays, including the widely acclaimed “Ferris Wheel,” and her work as an actress in New York City and beyond, you would think St. Simons Island resident Mary Miller’s theatrical work was in the cards from the beginning. But her long and successful career was originally her Plan B.

Plan A was a career as a professional tennis player. “I wasn’t a theatre kid in school. I played on the national tennis circuit all through high school at Westminster (in her hometown of Atlanta),” said Mary, who graduated with honors and was selected for the prestigious school’s Hall of Fame in honor of her rank as the No.1 female high school tennis player in Georgia. “My dad had gotten me into tennis when I was 8 or 9 years old.”

Riding east on Cannons Point Road, along a natural woodland path in northern St. Simons Island, you realize you’re in for a treat as you approach The Farm at Oatland North. This picturesque animal sanctuary, set among giant oaks, with its horse barn, corrals and pens is one animal haven we think Mother Nature would certainly approve. Meet Diana and Volunteers at The Farm…

Diana, tell us about the family who created The Farm at Oatland North…
Previously, the land was leased as a riding and boarding stable as part of the Murrah family farm. In 2003, Barbara and Bascom Murrah returned to St. Simons. Barbara and her daughter, Natalie, began saving animals, beginning with a horse named Lightning and two cows: Amanda and Panda. Soon The Farm became a haven for Little Saint Simons Island retired trail horses, and then began receiving abused and neglected farm animal cases from Glynn County Animal Control.

As the Coastkeeper with the Altamaha Riverkeeper, which is a non-profit dedicated to the “protection, defense and restoration of Georgia’s biggest river, Susan Inman spends much of her time in the great outdoors actively monitoring the health of the Golden Isles’ waters. This is perfect for her.

“My passion is being outside,” said the native of South Dakota/Minnesota. “I started out working on my uncles’ farms. Of course, when you do that for family, you don’t get paid,” Susan laughed. “That passion led me to work all over the United States to study animals and work on the environment.

Recently, we learned how many local adults are staying active while having fun­—they’re playing kickball! Co-Captain Sharonda Boggs, of the Just Kickin’ Kickball Team, gave us great insight into all the fun of adult kickball. You’ll get a kick out of Sharonda’s “play-full” information:   

Sharonda, are you an athlete by nature?
I played basketball and ran track and cross country in high school. I’m a school counselor and try to stay active.

Island resident and research genealogist Linda Olsen thinks having fun is not an option, but a necessity.

“My mom died from ALS at 53, and my dad died from lymph cancer at 68. My mom was always putting off doing things she wanted to do, saying she would do all that after she retired, and never got to retire,” said Linda, shaking her head. “That’s why I retired early. I try to live every day to the fullest. I don’t really have a bucket list. If I want to do something, I just do it.”

After years of working in digital equipment sales, first in Boston, then in Atlanta, Linda retired early and opted for the slower pace of St. Simons 11 years ago. “My brother Gary worked at FLETC with the DEA, and I used to visit him.” However, once her brother’s job was relocated to Quantico in Virginia, she said, “I lost my summer place. So, I bought a place on the Island in 1991.”

From the time Marjorie Campbell was born to a poor teen mother in Jamaica, she found herself constantly having to prove to people that she was not only going to survive, but thrive.

“I was born weighing only 2 pounds and was in the hospital for two months. I was sick a lot and we were poor, really poor,” said Marjorie, who later had three younger siblings. “I went to school hungry every day and with no shoes. The one thing my great-grandmother, grandmother and mother said was ‘education is the key to opening many doors. A good education will never decay and with a good education, you can also encourage others.’”

Marjorie and her siblings took that to heart. She and her two sisters became teachers and her brother is a business manager. “I give my mother (Jennifer Watson) the credit. Even though she didn’t graduate high school, all four of her children have college degrees,” she said.

German native and St. Simons resident Ute Kleemann-Sporftschuetz has a quote that has guided her entire life: “Don’t wait for an opportunity, create it,” she said with a bright smile. “That’s what I do.”

That philosophy has literally guided her around the world. As a teen in her hometown of Stuttgart, Germany, she began traveling as a member of the West Germany Olympic diving team. “I was the German champion in the one- and three-meter dives 20 times, but I didn’t make it to the Olympics in Montreal because they only chose to take divers who competed in all three events.”

Paisley’s theme for this month is #followyourheart. Have you always followed your heart?

Ever since I was a little girl, I followed my heart and did not let anything stand in my way. My dream was to play college basketball, and when my high school coach told me I would never be good enough, I did whatever it took to receive a college basketball scholarship to play ball. I became a teacher, coach and school counselor to help students follow their hearts and their dreams!

When Newark, New Jersey, native Dr. Oatanisha Dawson was studying engineering at Rutgers University, she never envisioned that 20 years later she would be the principal of an elementary school in a small, southeast Georgia town.

“I started at Rutgers and attended three years studying industrial engineering,” she said with a smile, while seated behind her office desk at Goodyear Elementary School in Brunswick. “I loved the idea of building plans and creating affordable housing. Then my life changed.”

26-year-old Caley Neely had just gotten out of the shower, dried her hair and put on her makeup for work. But something wasn’t right. Her usual headaches had intensified that week, creeping down her neck and persisting no matter what she took for the pain. Now everything was hazy, and she finally asked her husband to take her to the ER.

“I was going in and out,” said Caley, an occupational therapist who works in a hospital rehabilitating people after strokes and injuries. “I couldn’t answer questions or even speak. I just started bawling because in my mind I kind of knew what was going on in bits and pieces, but other times I had no idea.”

From the time she was a small child in Virginia, New York Times, Amazon, and USA Today best-selling author and St. Simons resident Claire Cook knew she wanted to be a writer. “I started writing when I was little, little. The first thing I had published was on a kid’s page when I was six years old,” she said smiling. “I majored in film and creative writing in college (Syracuse University). But when I graduated, I choked. I listened to all the negativity about how hard it was to be a writer and hid from writing for decades.”

Instead of pursuing her calling, she “followed her kids to school” and became a teacher for 16 years. “I wrote for some magazines and won awards for creative teaching, but it was as if I had buried my dream so deep, I almost couldn’t find it. I really loved the kids, but it just hit me one day that I could be one of those people who didn’t ever try. My procrastination finally became more painful than actually doing it.”

Sylvia Tervoort, who hails from the Netherlands, speaks with a wide smile, shakes hands with the grip of a titan and is an excellent ambassador for the world’s seafaring industry. Since 2008 Sylvia has been a Salvage Master with SMIT, one of the largest maritime salvage and towage organizations in the world. This job title, usually held by men, is held by only one woman in the world and it is Sylvia.

Since early September, Sylvia, along with approximately 50 SMIT salvage crew members and other first responders, including the US Coast Guard and State of Georgia professionals, have been in the Golden Isles handling the salvage operation of the capsized Golden Ray cargo ship, which is lying on its side in the St. Simons Sound. The almost new two-year-old massive ship is more than two football fields long and has capacity to carry up to 6,933 cars.

Debbie, how did you meet your husband, Scott?  What stirred your move to St. Simons Island in 2016? We met during my freshman year at Gordon College in Wenham, MA. I was pursuing an elementary education degree and looking for Mr. Right. I spotted a tall handsome boy from Brunswick, GA., during orientation and that was that.

We married after graduation and three years later left New England for the University of Georgia and grad school. Scott started working for The Coca-Cola Company after an internship there, and we moved to Atlanta. I found alternative ways of using my education degree in manufacturing, multimedia, distribution and even at the GAP with positions that allowed me to do corporate training, write operations manuals, conduct new hire orientation, and even accounting. When my babies came, I never hesitated to stay at home with them.

I worked for Fulton County Schools as a school assistant, substitute and front desk receptionist when our children entered elementary school and essentially went to work with them. Tyler (now 25) and Hannah (22) both graduated from UGA with degrees in public relations like their daddy. They live in Atlanta and Athens, have neat jobs with PR agencies and are successfully adulting!

Mary Monroe is the perfect example of a woman with strong faith, a positive attitude and serendipitous good sense. Since moving south from Lake Orion, Michigan, 17 years ago, her life path has led her to the best places at the right time.

Raised in a musical family, Mary attended Oakland University in Rochester Hills, Michigan, minoring in music (piano) and majoring in psychology. Soon she was a mother of four— Benjamin (23), Mary Kate (21), Grace (19) and Jack (14).  

Mary said she came here with nothing: “I made my way down here with my four kids and a prayer. I’ve prayed so long for clarity and direction, and I am starting to see it. I found myself here after a divorce. The kids were young, and it was not easy to leave, but it was a good time for me to reevaluate and make the move. We arrived and stayed with family—all four went through school here. Three are in college now and Jack is in ninth grade; they are all doing well.

Way back in the day, some six generations ago in McIntosh County, Jenkins’ family members often gathered to share their Gullah Geechee heritage in the form of the Shout, performing their ancestral stories through movement, word and song, especially during worship on Sundays. Today the McIntosh County Shouters continue to share this living history. Their performance of the Shout has been proclaimed by many as the roots of all music in America. Yes, ALL American music.

We sat down with nine of the ten member group, each one graced with a special purpose in honoring their ancestors. The Shouters are all cousins, who are descendants of London and Amy Jenkins, and have lived in McIntosh all their lives. L.C., Carolyn, Carletha, Freddie, Dennis, Kantressa, Carol, Brenton and Vanessa were happy to share views and stories of their nearly 40 years in public performance. Carletha spoke first: “We did not learn the Shout; it is in us. The old souls of our ancestors come right on out!”

Reneé Sutton is feeling fortunate after surviving two bouts of early stage breast cancer.

“With my first breast cancer, I found a lump in my right breast while taking a shower,” she said, adding she had a mammogram, which showed no signs of cancer, just three months before discovering the lump. “It was a small, non-aggressive tumor.”

Her treatment included a lumpectomy and radiation to eradicate the cancer, but a year later, a mammogram revealed a small tumor in her left breast. “They called it in-situ (earliest stage cancer, considered non-invasive).” With this second diagnosis, Reneé chose to have a bi-lateral mastectomy. “The second one was so small I didn’t need radiation.”